有时候，很希望住在黑白分明的世界。讨厌的时候就是讨厌，喜欢的时候就是喜欢。没有太复杂的情绪，没有让人搞不懂的心情。像那朵花一样，颜色分明，不会让人混淆。
如果可以分明，我可以直接去骂那个插队的老太太。不用因为敬老，而容忍她插队在长长的人龙前面。
如果可以分明，我可以心里讨厌那个虚伪的人，在她面前也同样讨厌她。
如果可以分明，我可以毫无顾虑地去恨那个让我伤心的人，而不用为他辩护。辩护伤害我，是由于他也无法控制的原因。
如果可以分明，我可以嘴里说着放下，心里也一样放下。
只因他的消息，我还是很在意；这段感情的结束，我心里还是觉得很受伤；看到别人的幸福家庭，我会有莫名的酸楚。
虽然如此，但我已没有问为什么了，也没有自怨自艾。每天照常地上班下班，有空和朋友出去走走。已经越来越适应、越来越享受一个人的生活。
或许我只是需要更多时间，让我的感情世界更加分明。
Ok, I admit that my subject title is a bit violent, but that is literally what happened to this picture 
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Violent, but it makes me laugh 
. That’s why I cant help but put it in full size, though it might make my loading time longer.
Isn’t it cute the way that 冷面笑将is trying to make you smile? That is why the 冷面笑将 is “always” able to make you smile because your face have to react this way when someone is doing that!
Btw, the picture was sent to me by Spy (as usual i dun quote real names in my blog, so it is a nick for her), who wanted to contribute to my blog. Thanks to her for the interesting picture here!
And ya, Spy, dun forget to continue to spy for me while sending me pix hor~
今年的收的喜帖特别多，刚巧又看到了吴淡如的一篇文章，觉得挺有意思的，所以和你们分享。
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该寄喜帖给前女友吗?
“我应该把喜帖寄给她吗?”小林问。“她结婚时，我送了个大红包。现在我要结婚了，应该发帖子给她吗?”
她是小林念大学时的女友。他私下告诉我，虽然他即将娶妻，心里对这个女人，还是不能忘情，虽然，是她先对不起他的。她在大学毕业后，奉母命嫁给一个医生，光想象她挽着别人的手，他的心裂成了千万片，让他差点在军中举枪自尽。
这几年，他偷偷打听她的消息。知道她因为丈夫外遇离婚了，又回复单身。她离婚时，他正和女友论及婚嫁。
这真是个困难的决定。
“决定不是容易的。”我说，“她不来，你会感觉受伤。她来了，你会感到尴尬。”
如果你知道和你分手的情人，在离开你之后过得很好，你心里未必不会有点酸；如果他过得不好，你又何必多添这一番刺激，让他在心头恨你?
“但是，如果不告诉她，似乎没有什么理由来和她联系，来问她过得好不好，来为年轻时那个令人惆怅的故事写下最后的句点。”他说。这是他的心事，他想寄给她喜帖，并不是为了示威。
很多女子，也常在结婚前夕，为了“该不该寄给前男友喜帖” 而犹豫。多年后想起来，他想她心中还是有重量的。在结束单身前，偏偏想起他，想听听他的声音，再与他联系一下。想告诉他自己有了归宿，又怕伤害了他。
真正能开放胸襟面对前任情人喜帖、又欣喜赴宴的实在不多。能去参加的都是确信 “现在我过得很幸福” 的人，多半是携伴前去装坚强的。
我诚恳地对小林说:“如果我是你的前女友，我绝对不想接到你的喜帖，不寄，代表你的仁厚。” 因为她过得不好，你就别跟她炫耀 —– 你现在有了别人，过得很幸福。
如果她还惦念你，她看到你的喜帖会很痛苦。如果她不爱你，她会觉得你很小气，你舍不得不拿她的红包，还拿你的幸福去刺激!
小林后来打了电话给前女友，平淡地告诉她，他要结婚了，她说恭喜的口气也很淡漠。他问她喜帖要寄哪里，却没有真的寄。
小林说:“我听出她说恭喜时，语气是很酸的。心里有点惆怅，却又有点高兴。” 告诉她，是小小的残忍；没寄，是小小的仁慈。人在面对旧情时最矛盾。
如果你有那一天，希望你也对我仁慈一点。
Hi dears,
I spotted an interesting article about a guy’s changing perception towards pretty gals. In his younger days, he belonged to the type who only date pretty gals like cheersleaders and models. As days went passed, he found something in the not so pretty gals that is far more attractive than the pretty ones.
Is it possible that one day guys will pursue for that something underneath our skin?
Here’s the link:
http://www.elle.com/featurefullstory/13908/walter-kirn-on-relationships-june-2008-elle.html?ybf1=1
Categories: Reviews · 说说而已
Tagged: pretty gals, skin
Remember last time i wrote a review about 三个心愿by FIR?
All thanks to Misssunflower that I now know that I can actually upload youtube’s video in my posts. Hehe. So I uploaded the MV in this post and hope those who like this song as much as I do enjoyed it.
没有每天update 我的blog了， 因为我体内的懒惰虫发作。可能它感应到我的holiday mood， 所以便出来走走。
今天是星期四，在JB做工。虽然travelling有点累，但起码老板不在身边，做起事来比较自由。我老板明天就回来了，所以我的自由在明天正式结束。放工后要去SPA，relax一下我自己。
我想想这星期做了什么…..
星期一
还在新加坡。放工后和朋友看”Made of Honor”。电影桥段有点老套，比不上”My best friend’s wedding” 来得感动和现实，有点难引起我们的共鸣。说的是两个老朋友，在女方离开男方去公干的时候，男方才发现他不能没有她。本打算在女方回来后告白，谁知女方竟要结婚了，还要男方作她的伴etc。男方决定不惜一切追回女生。结局就是，女生一直都喜欢着男生，无奈男生从没有表示。所以当男生在婚礼上表白时，女生就感动地答应了。
有很多地方都得不到我的共鸣。如: 我不明白为什么男生可以喜欢女生近十年，却不知道。所以到处和别的女人上床，而把女生当作他时时陪伴的好朋友。我也不明白为什么女生可以在男生面前，一副和新郎深深相爱，难分难舍的样子，到最后却可以为男生而把她之前热恋的新郎抛弃?
星期二
也还在新加坡。今天没有什么特别的事，放工回家。突然想打个电话给我在国外的姑妈。我的这个姑妈，性格很冲，但开朗，自信心澎湃，又好玩。从我小时候就很照顾我们，所以感觉特别亲。她的老公在半年前突然去世了，对她的打击不小。尤其她没有孩子，老公可以说是她唯一的寄托。还好她看得开，又有身边亲戚朋友的支持，所以每天过得还写意。不过和她聊天时，她总会不经意地提起她老公，让我觉得她可能需要更多的时间才可以完全恢复吧! 如果她有孩子，会好一些吗?
生命里没有绝对。可能单身才是美好人生的开始，就如结婚不是幸福的保证。如果我嫁的是一个不爱我，不疼我的男人，那结婚干吗? 如果觉得一定要有孩子，那孩子长大后，不但不孝顺，还虐待父母，那生来干吗? 当然，我并不是advocating大家不结婚，不生小孩(因为我是很喜欢小孩子的!)。我想说的是，让一切顺其自然吧。因为自然定律会安排一切。因为命里有时终需有，命里无时莫强求。
星期三
从JB回来后，收到朋友的SMS。又一次的聚会，可能会和他碰面，我应该去吗? 刚刚过了8个月02天，心理还是没有准备好，i think i’ll give it a miss then….
但我真的比较好了，最起码我忘了在每个月的27号去计算我们分手多少个月了。
以前还可以在Facebook偷看他的近况，现在不行了，因为他把Facebook set to private mode 了。CRAP!
Categories: Reviews · 我的随记 · 说说而已
Tagged: 结婚, 聚会, Facebook, JB, made of honor, 分手, 姑妈, 小孩子
We booked our tour with Five Stars tour agency. It is ok if u travelling with budget. However, there are some things that we are quite uncomfortable with them.
1. We booked our tour like one month plus ago, but they only called up and request us to be earlier by 1hr i.e. 530am around 1 week before we set off. Seems a bit late. Moreover it is so early…
2. They travelled by woodlands causeway instead of the 2nd link. I am not sure if it is cos 2nd link is further away from the Tioman Jetty? But to set off on a long weekend and thru woodlands, i think it’s almost definite that we will be caught in a jam. So Tallie and I a bit puzzled over this fact.
3. Everything is delayed. The coach set off from golden mile at 630am, when we were told to gather at 530am. We were caught in the jam and custom. At the Singapore custom, the tour guide dunno miscalculated the headcount initially or wat, which resulted in our coach short of 1person. After several rounds of checks, we could not identify the missing “head”. Thus, we set off without completing the count. All in all, it was unsystematic.
4. When we arrived at the Jetty, it was chaos again. Cos there is no clear instruction on how to redeem our jetty tickets with the Five star voucher. So we just Q at any line that is formed. After a while, 2 ladies and a guy just randomly picked some of us and request for our voucher and then back to the counter again. After that, we just waited until their heads handed out our tickets. They repeated the cycle with other travellers. It was again, unsystematic.
5. Things were so much better when we reach Tioman. There were staffs from our resort to pick us and our lugguge and showing us all the way to the resort – Tioman Paya resort.
6. They offered us some drinks when we reached their resort. Even though the resort was rather isolated (in fact we need to walk pass a wobbly bridge in order to get there), I must say that the owners were friendly and helpful. Cos JNC needs to get back to Singapore on our 2nd day which is not as planned. The lady boss of the resort helped her booked ferry tickets and patiently taught her how to get back to singapore from the jetty if she is unable to hitch a hike from other five star coaches at the jetty.
7. The resort belonged to those chalet-style, with wooden planks as their flooring. Honestly, it’s a bit out, with some minor cracks on the door and the electricity keep tripping during the night. Perhaps it’s cos we din switch the air-con off during the day when we out for sea sports. But luckily there is the fan, so we can still survive without the aircon.
8. At night, dinner was sumptuous. With the 3 of us, sharing a huge bowl of rice, 4 dishes and 1 soup. It was super enough. With the 3 of us, we already have quite a bit of leftover, not to mentioned when JNC left us on the 2nd day? Thus, we actually told the owner not to prepare so much food since there was only 2 of us on the 2nd day dinner. He asked us not to worry, as he being the owner of the resort, is only concerned if his guest does not have enough to eat rather than too much to eat! Well, I know it’s wasteful, but upon hearing that, I still feel warm inside. Feeling that the owner was trully doing a people business rather than a business business.
9. Five star service was slightly better on our way back to singapore. The coach was more spacious and nicer. However, we are still stuck in the jam and custom. And luckily there is no missing “heads”.
That marks the end of our Tioman trip reviews~
Categories: Reviews · 我的随记
Tagged: Customs, Five Star, Jams, tioman, Tioman Paya resort
It has been one week since I came back from my Tioman trip, but haven got the time to share with you all. We set off on a sat morning and the 3 of us were forever stuck in some jam and Qs and forever delayed by whatever transport. As a result, the journey which supposedly should take less than 6 hours, took a wholesome 9hrs!
Nevertheless, we were able to capture some beautiful view from our coach, which we might have missed out in our daily hectic life, like sunlight which squeeze through the bus, the “peopleless” woodlands causeway etc.
When we finally reach the resort, it was still bright and sunny. The beach looks clean and nice and the water looks clear. There are a lot of coconut trees on the island and on it are handwritten signs “Beware of falling coconuts”. Our 1st day on the island, we din do much. Cos the water bank is quite rocky and we cant swim in it; we can only squat and play water like kids ~
After the water playing session, the 3 of us went up. Tallie wanted to tan herself, so she kept smudging suntan lotion on herself; I want to prevent spots on my face, so I kept applying sunblock lotion on myself; last but not least, JNC wanted to keep herself free from any lotion, so she din do anything except lying down there and write her secret Dairy.
Too bad, some cats came along (according to JNC, they actually stared at us from afar, waiting for the right moment to pounce on us), JNC got really scared and we quickly left the place and grab some food.
At night, 3 of us went back to our room after dinner. JNC wanted to sleep early as she has had a tiring day. So Tallie and me played some poker and drink as penalty. Sometime right in the middle of our game, an uninvited guest came along…It was a cockroach!
Tallie and I were terrified. She was the one who actually caught glimpse of it, but she just couldn’t move any parts of her body except mouth ”Quick quick, it’s moving towards us! kill it before it gets to our beds!”. I was scared too, but I can imagine the implications if that thing really managed to seek a refuge under our bed and god knows when it will come out and lick our faces when we were asleep!?
Thus, I bravely (and I really felt that I’m so brave for someone who is so jerky even at shadows of cockroaches) grabbed something and smacked the cockroach (using Tallie’s slipper and she was blaming me for it when she was still immobilised on the bed).
One smack and it stopped moving. 5 seconds later, it moved again and I quickly do another smack (heart thumping like crazy as if just committed murder). It finally stopped moving and I exhaustedly stand up. I asked tallie to sweep it away, as I have used up all my courage to do the 1st part and am unable to do the 2nd part anymore. But Tallie refused to do anything (trust u to be my friend, chey!).
At this time, the cat-phobic who happens to be my saviour at this time, JNC started to stir. She has woken up to our screaming and smacking sound. Knowing our fear, she kindly offered to help us get rid of the body. As she was standing in front of the body and me 2 steps away from her, the thing jumped! I screamed and jumped at the same time (maybe at the same rythem as that thing)! Cant remember what happened after that, whether the thing died again or JNC kill it again. But at the end JNC calmly disposed off the thing and our room became normal again (a big thank you to you and rest assured that I will fence off any cats that came into our sights).
From this incident, I learnt a very, very, very important lesson. That is, try to include a variety of friends in your travelling group. For example, cockcoach phobic travellers should always get at least one non-cockcoach phobic traveller along. At least, it won’t ended up that all the travellers screaming away at the sight of the cockroach not bigger than one’s thumb instead of enjoying the relaxed stay. Hehe and everything will be bright and beautiful!
And Tallie, if you are reading this post, remember to reflect on urself! Shame on u for being so timid!~
Categories: 我的随记 · 说说而已
Tagged: beach, cats, cockroach, sun, tioman
I Like Your Thinking
A teacher asks her class, “If there are five birds sitting on a fence and you shoot one of them, how many will be left?” She calls on little Johnny.
“None, they all fly away with the first gunshot.”
The teacher replies, “The correct answer is four, but I like your thinking.” Then Little Johnny says, “I have a question for YOU. There are three women sitting on a bench having ice cream. One is delicately licking the sides of the triple scoop of ice cream. The second is gobbling down the top and sucking the cone. The third is biting off the top of the ice cream. Which one is married?”
The teacher, blushing a great deal, replies, “Well I suppose the one that’s gobbled down the top and sucked the cone.”
“The correct answer is the one with the wedding ring on… but I like your thinking.”
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Tight Skirt, Bus Stop
One day, at a bus stop there was a girl who was wearing a skintight miniskirt. When the bus arrived and it was her turn to get on, she realized that her skirt was so tight she couldn’t get her foot high enough to reach to step.
Thinking it would give her enough slack to raise her leg, she reached back and unzipped her skirt a little. She still could not reach the step. Embarrassed, she reached back once again to unzip it a little more. Still, she couldn’t reach the step.
So, with her skirt zipper halfway down, she reached back and unzipped her skirt all the way. Thinking that she could get on the step now, she lifted up her leg only to realize that she still couldn’t reach the step.
So, seeing how embarrassed the girl was, the man standing behind her put his hands around her waist and lifted her up on to the first step of the bus. The girl turned around furiously and said, “How dare you touch my body that way, I don’t even know you!”
Shocked, the man says, “Well, ma’am, after you reached around and unzipped my fly three times, I kinda figured that we were friends.”
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Pharmacist Phun
A girl asks her boyfriend to come over Friday night and have dinner with her parents. Since this is such a big event, the girl tells him that after dinner, she would like to have sex with him for the first time.
The boy is ecstatic, but he has never had sex before, so he takes a trip to the pharmacy to get some condoms. The pharmacist helps the boy for about half an hour. He tells the boy everything there is to know about condoms and sex. At the register, the pharmacist asks the boy how many condoms he’d like to buy a 3-pack, 10-pack or family pack. The boy insists on the family pack because he thinks he will be rather busy, it being his first time and all.
That night, the boy shows up at the girls parents house and meets his girlfriend at the door. “Oh, I’m so excited for you to meet my parents! Come on in!”
The boy goes inside and is taken to the dinner table where the girl’s parents are seated. The boy quickly offers to say grace and bows his head. A minute passes, and the boy is still deep in prayer, with his head down 10 minutes pass, and still no movement from the boy. Finally, after 20 minutes with his head down, the girlfriend leans over and whispers to the boyfriend, “I had no idea you were this religious.”
The boy turns, and whispers back, “I had no idea your father was a pharmacist!”
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Categories: 开心一下
Tagged: man and woman, 开心一下
